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I saw this article, “A Day Without Whiny Women in America” the day after it was published, inside Facebook’s trending feeds. Curious, I clicked on it and after about 30 seconds of reading it, sighed.
Unaware of this “Day without women”, I completely agree with the article…who has time to take off of work to make the point that this planet cannot do without women? Guess what, people, we can’t do without men either…or children, or plants or animals or the sun or the moon, the planets or the universe.
If you are a women who is treated badly in life and feels unloved and unappreciated, there is a solution that will be more practical than “striking” from life for a day.
Change your circumstances. Notice I did not say change your attitude. I said, change your circumstances. Take it from one who speaks from experience.
Sometimes the Universe does it for you. I lived in a horrible roommate situation my husband refused to resolve, allowing two parasitic women to have free room and board for an unbelievable 13 years. I tried EVERYTHING I legally could to get rid of them short of getting a Sheriff to throw them out of the house…being nice, not being nice, pressure, rental agreements, lord knows nothing worked. Short of threatening divorcing my husband, I put the pressure on him to talk to them. He’s one of those guys who’s too nice and only towards the end did he talk to them – of course to no resolution.
Finally, unable to rent out the two rooms they were squatting in to help pay the mortgage, we lost the house when the bank foreclosed. As stressful and terrible as that experience was, it was the only way short of something very bad happening to them that they would leave. My husband and I left first and the bank was left with the problem of removing their carcasses before cleaning up the disgusting mess they had left behind.
It is an extreme example of getting out of a stagnant situation that is making one feel frustrated, helpless and unheard, but it makes the point. No one person was going to get rid of them for me, but when the time came, I saw the sacrifice of our home of 16 years was the only way to move forward in life and stop being a helpless, whiny woman. Like the article linked above says, you have to be a “Renaissance woman”. They are “winners, not whiners; leaders, not followers; and most importantly, victors, not victims”.
Some women (and people in general, regardless of their sex), love to whine and bitch, but NO ONE likes to be around them (except other whiners and bitches), so take back your life from being a bitcher and be a doer. It will be so worth it in the end.
Last week was tiring. As I did my report for my job, I found it strange that most days I had said, “client in a good mood” and yet by Thursday I felt worn out and Friday I called in an hour late because I was so wrecked in the morning. That did have more to do with my sleep schedule being screwed up. I would crash for 2-3 hours when I got home from work, then get up and stay up past my normal bedtime that amount of time I had slept. Not the best idea in retrospect.
Since I had adjusted to my new job a month or two ago and was no longer doing the, “come home, face plant” scenario, I think my return to it may have to do with the changing dynamics I am adjusting to in my life. Settling into a routine on the weekends which includes adding a 3-hour live cast Sundays is a big deal as everything I used to do on Sunday now revolves around this chunk of time committed to first the learning curve, then the job of pimping the ‘cast to my social media circle. Today’s Stalk Me While I Write Sunday show went quickly and without a hitch as far as setup and initiating. Next I am planning a more visually dynamic, pre-recorded background to keep my chat room visitors occupied, happy campers who will be encouraged to interact with each other while I write. I am hoping it will help me to do more writing during the livecast and avoid the impression that I’m ignoring anypony while doing it.
Stalk Me While I Write Sundays happen at 12:00 noon Pacific Time on my Picarto TV channel Hail King Sombra.
2017 is gearing up to be a year of great and good changes already. Things have been aligning more favorable for me ever since I took my current caregiving job. Now that I am doing the two things I am meant to do and love – care giving and writing – the good fortune is spilling over into other areas. I have FOUR new website clients during a time of year typically NO ONE is even thinking of working on their website – let alone putting monies out to get them designed. Website design is not my purpose in life, but the Law of Attraction heard me when I was concerned we needed more money to catch up even with the new job and the Universe provided what I needed through it.
This newfound prosperity reminds me of the commitment I made back earlier in 2016 after a data entry job of three months came to an end. I decided to throw myself into something that had been neither steady nor easy, but was something everyone told me was what I was meant to do, and that was care giving. I worked hard at all the small, part-time (and one full time) positions I had at the time, even though they were short-term. Showing the Universe I was now ready to embrace my special talent fully was rewarded with the steady, full-time position I have now. This in turn reminds me of something I learned with a Quattro University instructor, Sensai Ron Thomas. He said, “Do what you love and the money will come”.
It does indeed!
All cultures hold memorial rites for the dead. Few things in life are more sacred – being up there with birth, coming of age and bearing our own children. This amazing video had me crying steadily when I first saw it three years ago and I have never forgotten it. Even today, when I work on the more powerful scenes in my storytelling, I look to this anime music video for inspiration. I plan to pattern a scene after it in my ongoing King Sombra Chronicles. Look for a link to it when it is finished.
As it turns out, Star Wars, Episode VIII finished filming in July of this year, so we will have a poignant tribute to her memory when seeing the next Star Wars installment, slated for December 17, 2017 next year. As website Distractify said in their article, “…writers will have until they start filming Episode IX in 2018 to figure out what Leia’s future is with the series.”
Excerpt from my Facebook post of December 27th, 2016:
This movie literally changed my life. It caused me to move to Southern California, I never would have made the wonderful, life-long friends I have today if it were not for Star Wars. Carrie Fisher was such a HUGE part of that in the fiercely independent persona of Princess Leia that became hope for me that I too could stand up to the awful direction my teenage years were spiraling in to. I have NO WORDS and the few words I have will never be enough. This is DEVASTATING.
Dragonflies in new age and pagan circles represent illusion – that veil with which we hide away from the world, the ways we kid ourselves and run away from responsibilities or who we really are. If one sees too many dragonflies in life, they better stop and ask themselves why and what they are deluding themselves from facing.
Behind the Veil peels back the illusion by offering sights, sounds and especially stories that reach deep into one’s heart and touch emotion. If you feel an emotion as a result of what you see here, good. Then as a Dragonfly Priestess, I have done my job.
Tread carefully beyond this point. Raw emotion tends not to care if you do not want to feel or not. If it must be released, it will do so.
Whether you want it to or not.
Weird that it is one day shy of a month later that I looked at this blog and decided it was overdue for another update on my life. That wasn’t planned, I swear!
This post will be on more current events that have happened between this blog and the last one. So much that is good has happened in that short period of time.
Am still employed full time, got a $100 gift card from my client for amazon.com (it took me a full day to figure out what I’ll spend it on since I never shop there). I’m feeling more comfortable with my covenmates and am getting more into the idea behind my project which, when finished, will count towards me being elevated to High Priestess (woohoo!) and I can feel the shift into prosperity for us beginning to take a more permanent hold now that I am doing what I was meant to do and what I love – caregiving and storytelling (in that order). I have begun to let go the waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak – i.e. for something bad to happen to balance out the good. It doesn’t mean I will be shocked or surprised if something happens, it just means I will now hopefully be more open to accepting whatever lesson the universe is trying to teach me in using it to adjust my path more towards doing what I was meant to do and what I love.
That is another series of posts all by itself.
The storytelling has its own story behind it – one I had hope to tell this time, but will wait for the next blog. It is my goal that it be sooner than a month from now since things are now moving in my life at a pace faster than that. I hope you’ll be around for its telling. Subscribe to my RSS feed or send me a friend request on Facebook to get notifications of the next and future posts.
My last post was July 2015 – a year and three months ago. A lot has happened in my life since then and an update here is more than due.
That month back in 2015, my semi full-time client passed away from PSP – Progressive Supranuclear Palsy – a rare, incurable and bizarre disease that shares the same destructive tendencies as Alzeheimers and Parkinsons, but attacking the nervous system in the brain instead of the memory or muscular centers. I had been taking care of her for a year and seven months, so for this to come to an end, while we were anticipating it, was still a harsh and unwelcome change in our income that could not be saved up for due to my husband and my small incomes.
Through loans from his 401k and the small amounts of work I could find (including my website design business), we barely managed to survive until my next full-time job came in data entry November – January. Job hunting again, I jumped back into caregiving, gave it more of my devotion and hard work than I had ever done and it finally paid off in finding a full-time position taking care of a dementia patient which began in August. Coming up on the end of the year now, I am still with him and will be, Goddess-willing, long enough to begin saving up for the next, inevitable job change as always happens in the caregiving industry.
Time has mostly healed all the worst of losing our beloved Main Coon baby girl Harley and I hope to get financially stable enough once again to get another girl to keep her son Rhubarb company. But adopting is EXPENSIVE ($300 and up) and so we struggle against rising cost of living expenses to save even that amount to make that happen. It would have already been done if not for both our cars being older and constantly needing maintenance and breaking down every month.
Other stuff has been going on, but I will leave that to another post. Too long and you’ll fall asleep here. See you next time!